Sunday, 25 March 2012
IS MY CHILD REALLY A BULLY?
“Is my child really a bully?” That is the question that you ask yourself . You have just received a letter from the school that your child has been bullying along with others. So what can you do in this situation?
The first thing that comes to your mind is how to stop your child from becoming a bully? This is an uncomfortable and serious issue that has some deep rooted impact on the relationship of your child with his peers as well as his parents too. It can cause fear and feelings of hopelessness in your child which has to be removed.
So how to identify the bully factor in your child?
These are the most common characteristics that you find in a child having a bullying temperament.
· They always want to be in control of the situation. They do not want to be overpowered by somebody else.
If the above characteristics are seen in your child, it can be said that your child is a “bully”. It is time that you talk with him and try to find out solutions to remove that “I” feeling from your child. Due to these characteristics, the child may not only produce some negative results but it can also impact the future of the child as a whole.
There are a number of methods by which you can try to reduce the negative effects of this trait in your child.
· Go to the root – Try to go to the root of his problem of bullying. Find out why he is showing such traits and what the causes of this tendency are. If you find out the causes, it would be easier to provide him the help in solving these problems. These causes may range from insecurity in house, problems between parents, friendship problems or friend circle that he has.
· The Medical option – If you find that your child is still not making changes in his attitude towards others, it is time that you take the appointment of a psychologist who can be a better judge of the child’s mentality. He can give you the expert advice needed to bring improvement in your child.
Taking these various factors into consideration, it is always helpful for a parent to go by these methods to solve the problem of bullying in the child. Always remember, it is never late to solve any problems.